Request the DDR2 SI simulation Methodology

Hi, Bros
I want to do some SI simulations to the DDR2 memory with SO-DIMM slot.
I do not know the target Memory Stick information, I mean it end user would probably use any memory stick. And I do not have the SPICE, RLGC or S-parameters of the SO-DIMM connector.
But I know the IBIS model of memory controller.
Then who can help me on the Methodology of DDR2 SI simulation?
what software I should use, and what is the solution to this kind of simulation?


Thanks for your kindly help!

James